“Sow a thought, and you reap an act;
Sow an act, and you reap a habit;
Sow a habit, and you reap a character;
Sow a character, and you reap a destiny.”
So often we start from where we want to be rather than from where we are now. These words remind us that everything has its genesis in our thoughts. If we can change our mind, we can change our actions, and those actions can echo through time as our destiny.
“You cannot disown what is yours. Flung out, there is always the return, the reckoning, the revenge, perhaps the reconciliation. There is always the return. And the wound will take you there.” [Jeannette Winterson]
It's in our nature to run away from pain--to sever it from our soul, and abandon it in our darkness. The truth is that what we "disown", that which we orphan, has our fingerprints all over it. We can no more escape it than we could escape our skin. Listen to your pain; caress your fears, for they are our most devote of teachers. It is in their whispers and the tinge of their aches, that we find the truth to calm our uncertainty.
"Adopt the pace of nature: her secret is patience." [Ralph Waldo Emerson]
The majority of our stress derives from the fact we are all victims of time. By slowing down, we allow our mind to make a subtle shift as it becomes accustomed to focusing on where we are at now, rather than on what we are supposed to do next. This subtle shift allows us to spend more time reflecting rather than projecting. Instead of pursuing happiness, why not slow down long enough for it to catch up with you?
"The goal is not to avoid the fears associated with an adventurous life. The goal is to be so busy living a good one, you hardly notice them." [Paul S. Boynton]
It's been said that "FEAR" is simply an acronym for False Evidence Appearing Real. Stepping out of our comfort zone and reaching into the unknown, the uncomfortable, and the unexpected compels us to reach within ourselves for strength and resiliency we never knew existed. Keep busy living an "adventurous" and "busy" life, and your fears will become mere signposts along the way.
"Awakening is not changing who you are but discarding who you are not." [Deepak Chopra]
Have you ever wondered what that little indentation above your lip is called? That space between your lip and your nose is called a philtrum. According to the Jewish Talmud, an angel is sent by God to each womb to teach the baby "the entire Torah." Sadly, just before the baby is born, the angel returns and touches the baby between the upper lip and the nose and all that was learned, is now mysteriously forgotten; the philtrum is the mark left by the angel "shushing" the baby to cause her to forget her holy knowledge.
This concept is so beautiful because it reminds us that "awakening" to our true purpose in life is not an external quest of discovery, but rather, a process of unraveling--of editing the superfluous, to uncover the truth of our soul.
“If you love a flower, don’t pick it up.
Because if you pick it up it dies and it ceases to be what you love.
So if you love a flower, let it be.
Love is not about possession.
Love is about appreciation.” [Osho]
The strongest love is the love that is nurtured, but not contained. Just as a delicate flower needs to be watered and tended to, for it to thrive it must be left unattended to embrace the gentle winds, harsh sunshine, morning dew, and sudden downpours. Being in love's presence is a gift that can never be possessed.
“Another flaw in the human character is that everyone wants to build and nobody wants to do maintenance.” [Kurt Vonnegut]
It's very tempting to get intoxicated by the joy and adrenaline of working towards a goal or reaching a milestone. The real work begins in maintaining what you've built. A healthy relationship is not defined by the accolades a couple receives as they reach their milestone anniversaries--A more authentic barometer of any relationship is found in the faith and attention two people bring to each other as they nurture and maintain their relationship throughout the less glamorous challenges of building a loving and supportive foundation.
“A ship in harbor is safe, but that is not what ships are built for.” [John A. Shedd]
We spend our lives building resiliency to fortify ourselves for the times we encounter adversity. Many of us attempt to live an insular life in order to avoid the pain of loss, disappointment, and disillusionment. You are stronger than you think, so don't be a "ship in a harbor"--Go out and explore the uncharted seas.