"We have a tendency to want the other person to be a finished product while we give ourselves the grace to evolve." [T.D. Jakes]
Having been married for almost three decades, the one thing I'm certain of is that the person you marry, won't remain the same person you stay married to. You often hear people give newlyweds the advice "Never go to bed angry." I would add to that, "Leave space for your partner to evolve." One of the most exciting things in our marriage is that neither of us is a "finished product"—There's nothing more exhilarating in a relationship than hanging on to each other waiting for the next turn in the road.