A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but he who is slow to anger quiets contention. [Proverbs 15:18]
When we feel harmed, abused, or violated in any way, our natural reaction is to immediately lash out and rail against the attacker with the venom our own hatred, justified as self-protection. What we often forget is that hatred is fueled by hatred, and so, the vicious cycle continues. Newton's Third Law teaches us that "For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction." The "opposite" of toxic hate, most certainly can't be heaping on further toxic hate.