“To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything and your heart will be wrung and possibly broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact you must give it to no one, not even an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements. Lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket, safe, dark, motionless, airless, it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. To love is to be vulnerable.” [C.S. Lewis]
Being in love most definitely is not for the faint at heart. It's not surprising we use the expression "falling in love" because that's exactly what it takes--an ability to freefall and have faith that in letting go of yourself, you find a better "you". One of my favorite Buddhist sayings is that life is like jumping out of a plane without a parachute. The bad news is you are falling. The good news is there is no ground.