The space beside me

“Since you left there's been a you-shaped space beside me, all the time.  It never goes away.”  [Marisa de los Santos]

So what exactly is a soulmate?  If we defer to the daytime talk shows and to the everyday fodder of the latest romantic comedy, we see it as that magical moment when you find that special someone who "completes you".  I've never subscribed to that fairytale belief, and in fact, I believe perpetuating that notion does a disservice to romantics around the world.  Start from the belief that you are already "complete", and you are less inclined to feel inadequate or lacking.  Don't search for someone to "complete you", but rather search for that special person who challenges you, who understands you even when you don't understand yourself.  Find the person who recognizes the difference between being there for you and being there with you-- Once you've found this person, you'll understand why you were never missing anything in the first place. 

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